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Be Bold – Have Faith
by Pegine Echevarria

To be BOLD you have to have faith:

Faith is built on experiences, perception of self and optimism about your future. Faith is driven by what you tell yourself about yourself. For instance, if you focus, even for a short time, on your missteps or negative experiences your faith in yourself, your abilities and the concept that you have the power to receive what you desire will be limited.

This article will describe strategies to build your faith in these four areas to be bold in your life. Read more »

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Pegine’s Motivational Times — Mentoring Matters

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The Post-Gazette.com ran an article on Monday, October 19, 2009 by Ralph Bangs and Larry E. Davis called “Mentoring programs can build diversity in management”.

The article said mentoring is the #1 strategy for people to succeed. I agree, being mentored is critical in all areas and stages of our lives.

There are different kinds of mentoring: peer, group, one on one, online, in-person and over the phone.

Mentoring continues to play a huge role in my life. Without mentors in my life, I honestly don’t know where I´d be right now. As I continue to evolve, mentors play a powerful role in all areas in my life and career. I have also advised countless people at the same time, I had no clue they considered me their mentor. They asked questions and I just answered.

Professionally, I’ve written, lectured, taught and consulted regarding mentoring. Here is what I´ve learned.

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To Play BIG you have to Be BOLD

Bold acts come from knowing deep within that you will be okay, no matter what. Bold acts draw on the experience and knowledge that you have the talents, capabilities and confidence to:

1. Survive whatever is handed to you. That you have the perseverance, tenacity and determination to LIVE WELL and SUCCEED!
2. Accomplish a task you may not know how, but in your heart you know that if you are given the knowledge, the guidance and teachers you can take the actions that lead to success.

I didn’t say you would be perfect. I wrote that you can take action. Each of us has experience taking bold actions. When we were toddlers we boldly stood up and took our first steps. It didn’t matter if we fell down. It didn’t matter if we were unbalanced, we took bold actions.

We took bold actions when we raised our hands in class and gave an answer, even if the answer was wrong we took action. We took bold action when we went for job interviews; showed up and presented ourselves.

Look back at your life and focus on the bold actions you have taken. If actions led you down the path of failure, be bold and stop going down that path. Instead, focus on the strengths you have gained.

I hear people say, “No I can’t do that I’ll lose everything,” yet when they find the courage to take action they didn’t die or lose everything. They may not have received what they were hoping but they survived. Some may have lost material possessions but, in time they gained so much more. I was there, I am there. Every day I put another foot in front of the other, I step out with faith. I expect big things and what I receive often is a string of little things. Good little things that are signals to me that I’m on the right path. I’ve laid everything on the line and with each step I get stronger, more confident and more focused. This is an ongoing process for you and for me.

You have to be bold and be willing to step up and take action.

B - Believe in yourself. Know that you are here to do something powerful. You have to look around and realize that you have talents, unique abilities and the creativity to decide what you want and what your life needs to look like for you. Have in your head a continued, persistent message that says, “You are here to create something and expand your reach. If not you, then who?” Remember, you are resilient.

O - Opportunities are given to those who are bold enough to go after them. If you can’t find a job, volunteer and share your brilliance, create something that will give value to others. Help someone grow their business, being active, creates energy. Share your work ethic and values with others so that people experience you. At work and in your business create opportunities, change your daily rituals. Walk the office and talk to people you don’t know, offer your insights or ideas in meetings. Call people in your network and build them up. Write your boss a note of appreciation (if they deserve it), we forget that our leaders also need our cheers.

L- Let other people know your talents, let them help you, let yourself out of your office and build leverage through relationships. Engage in conversations that build people up. Whining is not an option. Use your strengths to offer guidance, inspiration, and help. Let others know what you do and how you do what you do. Let your energy flow to others so they feel your energy. Leverage your connections, introduce people to each other. Share someone’s resume, enlarge your market.

D- Discipline and determination are key to being bold. It is the disciplined daily action of keeping on your mission or path that opens doors and opportunities. Time will come and time will go, just stick to your plan. Determine what industry you want to be in, what client you want to close, and who you want to meet. Plan your strategy and do it. You have control of your actions. You decide how determined you want to be, you decide on the disciplined action you will take. You decide, this is where your power lies.

Being bold is key to playing big. Being bold is what kids do every day when they are young.

Your life is yours and only you can decide where you will go. Live your life like the opening to Star Trek “boldly go where no man has gone before.” No one has lived your life and no one can.

Be BOLD, live your life.

Motivational Diversity Leadership Rebel Pegine (Peg-een) has a cause. Her cause is YOU. Feisty, brilliant and fun she is one of 58 inductees into the prestigious Motivational Speakers Hall of Fame. Subscribe to her free newsletter at www.pegine.com. Copyright (c) 2010 Pegine Echevarria,MSW- All rights reserved worldwide.

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Game On

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by Pegine Echevarria

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Plan, action and results. Each and every day you read or hear about the power of plans. You think about your plans, and the organizational plans. You look at your to do sheets, squash the fires within your teams and make the calls you need to make, then you review the results. Did the plan work? Did the actions bring the results you hoped for? Without enthusiasm and infusing energy into your plan and actions the results will always be less than expected.

You have to bring your energy and life force to the game every day. Your work and life is a game and how much enthusiasm and energy you bring to your game will determine the results you achieve.

Here is a game I play with a friend and associate of mine. Brandon is a small business owner, a wonderful writer and a good friend. He has 3 teenagers and 3 children under the age of 5. He works from home, teaches at his house of worship on weekends and flies around the country working with authors and publishing houses. Read more »

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Your Independence

Pegine’s Motivational Times
by Pegine Echevarria

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I’ve got the power. It is a great day when you realize that you have the power to change your life, your perceptions of the world and your willingness to decide to succeed, no matter what.

It is shedding the layer of thoughts, ideas and perceptions that has held you back, and, instead embracing new ideas, new thoughts and beliefs about yourself and what you can be.

The decision to be free and independent – to truly declare and shout from the roof tops: “I am the only one who will decide what I want for me. I am the only person who has the power to think for me and to choose what thoughts I have. I can choose who I want to be.” That is true freedom.

Don’t you love being around happy, joyous, enthusiastic, smart, prosperous people? Don’t you enjoy learning from people who see the world of possibilities and who can help you be better?

Independence is the glorious gift you give yourself when you realize that what others think of you doesn’t matter to you. The only thing that matters is what you think of yourself.

You can choose to be that happy, joyous, enthusiastic, smart and prosperous person.

Listen to what you say about yourself. Listen to the words you use to describe yourself. When someone says something to you that you don’t like or that makes you feel uncomfortable what do you say to yourself?

The other day I was on a plane and heard two little kids fighting with each other. One of the girls said, “Sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me.” I wanted to applaud her. “Yes, you are right!”

The words someone uses when they talk to you, the tone of their voice or their facial expressions only effect you when you give them meaning. The thoughts that go through your mind are the meaning. Have you ever noticed how one person can say something and it doesn’t faze you, but when another person says the same thing you react (positively or negatively). You react because you gave those words meaning – through thought.

One of my favorite quotes is from Eleanor Roosevelt “No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” That quote used to make me so angry. I could prove the times that others made me feel inferior, until one day I realized that it was my thoughts that were filling me with negativity, anger and upset. The people weren’t making me feel inferior. I was doing it to myself.

Both the childhood rhyme and Eleanor Roosevelt’s comment drive home the fact that it isn’t what others say to us that affects us, but rather what we say to ourselves.

There are people who are reading this who will disagree with me. They will want to cite examples of people who were hurt, abused or victimized, because people called them names. Years ago I would have agreed with them. I could show lots of people who were hurt by others, including myself. However, what others said is not where the pain lies. It is within your mind and your thoughts about what others said that causes the pain.

The effects of your thoughts impact your life, work and business. We act on what we think. I recently heard from a friend who was so frustrated by a co worker. This co worker always assumed that everyone was out to get her. My friend was new to the organization and was asked to teach this person (I will call her Jane) a new process. This process was new to the organization. No one, except my friend, knew the process. One of her job responsibilities was to train everyone in the process. She set up an appointment with Jane and met her at the appointed time. Jane‘s first statement was, “So they think I’m not capable and don’t know what I’m doing. Is that why they sent you? Well I’m not going to make this easy for you. I know what I’m doing and I don’t need a tutor. ”

Obviously Jane had a lot going on in her mind – and the thoughts weren’t good or positive. After working with her for 45 minutes my friend decided to end the session. She reported the results of the session to her supervisor. Through the grapevine my friend learned that the woman had sued the company several times and that she was considered a “mean, vicious, super sensitive person”. Have you ever worked with someone like that?

[Note to HR professionals: I agree that there are steps HR can take in this situation.]

Everyone is free to accept negative impressions and to continually repeat them over and over and over… or not.

It is within your power to be independent and to change your thoughts about yourself and to think good, positive and prosperous thoughts.

You have the power.

This is not easy especially when you have spent many years believing negative thoughts about yourself.

It is time to change and to be independent. Choose to think happy, joyous, enthusiastic, smart, supportive and prosperous thoughts. You have the power.

Pegine’s Thought of the Month:

“Promise me you’ll always remember: You’re braver than you believe, and stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think.” Christopher Robin to Pooh ~A. A. Milne

Try-it:

How many times did we hear from our parents after we did something wrong, “What were you thinking?” and our response was “I dunno.”

That response doesn’t it cut it anymore. You have to become very aware of your thoughts. You need to know what you are thinking. You have to pay attention. Think.

Try this action this month: pay attention to your thoughts. Listen to what you are saying to yourself about yourself.

If you aren’t your greatest cheerleader, if you aren’t celebrating yourself and applauding yourself, you must take charge and change your thoughts.

If you don’t… who will?

Kick-butt action:

Think like Muhammad Ali. He said, “I am the greatest, I said that even before I knew I was.”

You are the greatest you there ever was!!

Reprinted from Pegine’s Motivational Ezine for Leaders”. Subscribe at www.pegine.com. Pegine motivates leaders in a diverse world. (c)2009

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Planting the Right Seeds

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by Pegine Echevarria

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There is a quote that millions of people hear all over the world, “You reap what you sow.” The interesting thing about that quote is that most people are not farmers, therefore the process of sowing is an art that many are not familiar with.

Many, many moons ago I was a student at John Bowne High School in Queens, New York for a short time. I attended their agricultural program (yes, I can do a comedy routine on that experience).

While I was there I learned about preparing the fields, sowing the seeds and harvesting the fruits of my labor. I was not cut out to be a farmer or continue my studies as an aggie (somehow Bronx girl to farmer Jane just didn’t feel right).

It wasn’t until years later that I connected the dots about that experience in my life. I had to learn the rules of sowing and how to plant the right seeds physically, then mentally and finally emotionally, so that I could share them with you. Read more »

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100% Responsible

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There is a lot of talk these days about responsibility. Finger pointing at others for the conditions that we are experiencing. The truth is that we, you and I, have to take 100% responsibility for the condition that we are in.

I’m talking about what is happening in your world, mind, home, job, family and finances. You are 100% responsible for what you have. You made certain choices along the way that resulted in what you are experiencing right now. The condition you are in physically, intellectually, fiscally, emotionally, spiritually is 100% your responsibility.

Jack Canfield in his book The Success Principle shares the following:

“You are responsible for everything that does or doesn’t happen to you.”

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You Are Terrific!

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Pegine’s Motivational Times
by Pegine Echevarria

Thank you so much for being terrific! Without you I can’t do what I do. I’m so thankful that you implement the techniques taught and that you are willing to see yourself and your potential.

Thank you for being focused on your growth. When was the last time someone thanked you for taking care of yourself. For reading material that supports the person you are and the person you are becoming?
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