Evaluating Your Associations (Part 2)
by Jim Rohn
In Part 1 we took a look at the power of influence in our lives and
how it is possible to be nudged off course a little at a time until finally, we find ourselves asking, "How did I get here?"
We then asked three key questions:
1) "Who am I around?" You've got to evaluate everybody who is able to influence
you in any way.
2) "What are these associations doing to me?" That's a major question to
ask. What have they got me doing, listening to, reading, thinking and feeling? You've got to make a serious study of how others
are influencing you, both negatively and positively.
3) "Is that okay?" Maybe everyone you associate with has been a positive,
energizing influence. Then again, maybe there are some bad apples in the bunch. All I'm suggesting here is that you take a
close and objective look. Everything is worth a second look, especially the power of influence. Both will take you somewhere,
but only one will take you in the direction you need to go.
Now, we want to discuss three ways to handle associations or relationships
that are holding you back.
1) Disassociate. This is not an easy decision, nor something you should
take lightly, but in some cases it may be essential (please don't email me asking to advise you about this, only you can decide).
You may just have to make the hard choice not to let certain negative influences affect you any more. It could be a choice
that preserves the quality of your life.
2) Limited association. Spend major time with major influence and minor
time with minor influences. It is easy to do just the opposite, but don't fall into that trap. Take a look at your priorities
and your values. We have so little time at our disposal. Wouldn't it make sense to invest it wisely?
3) Expanding your associations. This is the one I suggest you focus on
the most. Find other successful people that you can spend more time with. Invite them to lunch (pick up the tab) and ask them
how they have achieved so much or what makes them successful. Now, this is not just about financial success, it can be someone
that you want to learn from about having a better marriage, being a better parent, having better health or a stronger spiritual
life.
It is called association on purpose - getting around the right people by
expanding your circle of influence. And when you do that, you will naturally limit the relationships that are holding you
back. Give it a try and see for yourself.
To Your Success,
Jim
Rohn
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